anxiety, fertility, IVF, outdoors, single mom by choice, SMC, trying to conceive, ttc

Day 3

Yesterday, I was on pins and needles all day, fretting about the phone call and possibility of transfer on a dime. I stayed out of the house, keeping myself occupied from morning till night: I went to PA for coffee with A and her sweet 3-week-old baby L, then to SJ to visit L and her 3 kids plus 2 visiting to chat on the sidelines of her 6yo’s soccer game, then a walk and Salvadoran dinner with B–much processing and discussion and if-then scenarios. I’m lucky to have such great friends who are willing to hear me out when I am in that talk-it-out mode: thank you.

After several early-morning hours of online research to try to prepare to make an on-the-spot decision, the phone rang at 9:05am.

The nurse said she had really good news: you meet criteria to push to Day 5! (turns out the doc’s criteria was 8 embies of good quality).

Upon looking up the details, she clarified that in fact I still have 16 embies growing and thriving! No transfer today!

Dr. Tran called an hour later, also “very pleased,” and with a more qualified report: 13 look really good, 2 are average, and 1 is lagging. He also reminded me that grading is like judging a book by its cover: it doesn’t tell you the substance. Which is why I am so happy to be able to do PGS (Pre-implantation Genetic Screening) to tell us which ones have a normal chromosome count. We’re still taking it step by step. Which is why we’re not really celebrating yet; he said, “Congratulations, so far!”

I’ll get a call on Wed to say how many were biopsied and frozen. Genetic screening results about 7-10 days later. Frozen embryo transfer in about a month.

There’s still a long road ahead but the news couldn’t be better today, and for that I’m grateful. And I have my body back: no more injections or appointments for a while. Somebody get me a cocktail 🙂



4 thoughts on “Day 3”

  1. 13 look really good. That’s a lot of really good! Wed. seems a million miles away and 7-10 until genetic screening even further. Fertility involves so much data management! So much information, so little control and, ironically, so much patience practice and letting go for women who are generally good an taking control and “leaning in”

    (Speaking of Leaning In, I read, enjoyed and largely agreed with. Did you finish it? I also feel I can give better advice to young women now: Lean in at every point, and you’ll be in a better position to manage/negotiate family-related issues as you work your way up the jungle gym. What was the take-home message for you…if you managed to finish it while leaning in to IVF).



  2. Wow! Great news! And it sounds like it will be nice to give your body a bit of time off between the demands of IVF and the demands of pregnancy. (I’m just going to believe your pregnancy is right around the corner).

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